An excerpt from a Life Mastery Program (LMP) group coaching call conducted by David Wolf, Ph.D. David: “On our first call we spoke about living our lives so that when we’re a hundred years old we look back without regrets. Read more
EXPRESS YOUR EMOTIONS – LESS
EXPRESS YOUR EMOTIONS – LESS
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EMPATHY & A CULTURE OF TRUST
When someone really listens to me, deeply understands me and acknowledges the pain I am experiencing, I begin to feel less upset and more capable of handling my emotions and difficulties. Feeling cared about, I am moved to share more. Caring is reflected in listening, and an empathic response is an effective strategy to show that we have listened. Reflective, empathic responses build trust.
ASSERTIVENESS TRAINING COACHING LETTER
“Assertive” doesn’t mean abrasive or offensive. It means you being connected with who you are and asserting that. Also it means detached. Assertiveness is not merely a skill; it’s intrinsic to a life of integrity…
SATTVIC COMMUNICATION
“Sattvic communication involves understanding things rightly as preliminary to response.”
David B. Wolf
OPEN & HONEST
“…I hear that it is important for you to be open and honest with your mother. My suggestion, then, is to be open and honest with her. Be that way. And, respect and honor her for however she chooses to respond. She might be so appreciative, touched, and inspired. She might become angry, or hurt. I suggest that you take full responsibility for being open and honest. Your openness and honesty is 0% dependent on your mother, and 100% dependent on you. Go into this without expectations…”
David B. Wolf
EVERY EMOTION HAS ITS PLACE
“The states of being on the grungy list are not always grungies. They have their natural place in healthy human emotional life. For example, suppose someone dear to you passed away, and the next day you felt no sadness or grief. That would be unnatural. Sadness in this case would not be a grungy. Now, imagine that ten years after this person passed away, you are still so grief-stricken that you cannot function, hardly able to rise from bed each morning. That sadness would likely be a grungy, with corresponding payoffs. A grungy is an unpleasant way of being that we do not rectify. We might complain, gripe and grumble about it, but we hold onto it.”
David B. Wolf – Relationships That Work
GRUNGIES & PAYOFFS
“Assuming that we have freedom of choice, and that our nature is vibrant, bright, powerful and free, how come we would choose experiences such as depression, bitterness, anxiety, worthlessness, fear, guilt and confusion? Based on my experience with people I can guess that some readers are saying, perhaps instinctively, “I do not choose these emotions.” Stay with the premise that we are at choice, that we are the creators of our experience. Even if we don’t believe this premise to be true, we can reflect on the idea, saying, “Okay, if it were true that I am choosing these emotions, why would I be doing this?”
David B. Wolf – Relationships That Work
