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DR. DAVID WOLF AT THE MASTER OF INFLUENCE EVENT

Excerpts from Dr. David Wolf’s workshop, Transformative Communication: A Foundation for Powerful Living, at the Master of Influence event in Palm Springs, California, on November 5, 2010. Transformative Communication

is an approach to self-realization founded in ancient wisdom, innovative yet simple communication strategies, and breakthrough transformational methods. Join David and the 1300+ participants as you get a glimpse into the power of conscious living that characterizes the Satvatove experience.

ASSERTIVENESS

Excerpt From Relationships That Work: The Power Of Conscious Living
– By David B. Wolf

It happens to all of us that at times we have something difficult to say, something that might be unpleasant for others to hear. How should we go about expressing ourselves? There are three basic ways to do so, which correspond to the three main modes of material nature, as discussed before. These three modes are passivity, aggressiveness and assertiveness. Corresponding qualities connected with each mode of expression are given below.

Passivity Aggressiveness Assertiveness
scared abrasive bold
insecure Cocky confident
Nervous Harsh considerate
Inhibited Bully secure
Anxious Arrogant empathetic
self-deprecating Insensitive straightforward
Indecisive Loud honest
Weak Obnoxious courageous
Fragile Selfish open

It is obvious that assertiveness is the most desirable form of expression. Consider the following example. Say that Robert has agreed with his wife Lisa that he will be home from work at 6 p.m., and that he will call if he is late. How will she react when he comes home at midnight several nights in a row without calling her? In a passive mode, she may not say anything out of fear of

disturbing the peace, whereas inside herself she may be building anger and mistrust. This is related to the mode of tamas, which is characterized by fear and inactivity. In an aggressive mode she may scream and threaten Robert. This correlates with the mode of rajas, symptomized by reactivity.

Neither of these modes is likely to create productive communication. If Lisa is passive, Robert may not even be aware that there is a problem, and may appreciate his wife for her tolerance and understanding. If she is aggressive, decent communication is likely to be hindered as well, and Robert may either withdraw or answer with hostility from his side. None of these exchanges—fight or flight—culminates in frank and satisfying discussion.

With passivity, Lisa’s implicit message is: “You count. I don’t.” With aggressiveness it is: “I count. You don’t.” Assertiveness conveys, “You matter, as do I.” In assertiveness we take a stand, make our voice heard, in a way that honors others. Assertiveness is simultaneously bold and empathic, courageous and considerate. This quality of assertiveness is inherent to our integrity as human beings. A life of integrity entails expressing what we are meant to express in an honest and gentle way. Lacking this, we live a life controlled by fear. Integrity also demands that in expressing ourselves we are respectful of others, and that in claiming our rights we also honor the rights of others. Assertiveness means that even if we are expressing a truth that may be difficult or painful for others to receive, we are not doing it in a hurtful way. It is possible to speak about that which is unpleasant without actually being unpleasant. Rather than attempting to do damage, we endeavor to understand and to be understood—from a place of compassion.

FROM MARIAH

“It was a fabulous experience last weekend to have the opportunity to participate in the Foundational Seminar for a second time with both David Wolf and Marie Glasheen and all the other wonderful people this work

attracts. I had no idea what to expect for the 2nd go. The Foundational Seminar, for me, this time was both humbling and very enriching.

I feel I could take it ten times and continue to benefit every time. This has helped me feel stronger and more rooted in my path. The more I use and commit to this communication, awareness, and accountability practice, the more connected I feel to myself. For this amazing gift, I wish to share my deepest appreciation and gratitude for your work and the opportunity to be a part of it.
Thank

You”

Mariah
Foundational Seminar – Florida, March 2011

FROM KYLIE

The first thing I would like to say is that I have attended personal growth and transformational seminars all over the country for the last thirteen years of life and nothing has touched me so deeply or assisted me so quickly in discovering deeply embedded patterns and also offering the tools or ‘the way out’. I feel that the intelligence that went behind developing the exercises in the exact sequence that they were presented is nothing short of ingenious. I felt really safe and supported by the environment that you create.

The most powerful moment for me was when you shared that the biggest roadblock to communication is stating: ‘I know that’. Hearing that allowed me to listen more vulnerably and openly than I normally or habitually would have, so I appreciate that. I also appreciate the suicide prevention segment, its important and felt important to me in that moment. I am not exactly sure what all the elements are that create such an impactful experience compared to all the other personal growth and spiritual awareness work I have done, but whatever it is please don’t ever stop doing it. 🙂

I also appreciate the ongoing ways that you provide for participants to be involved with Satvatove through coaching, further trainings and courses, etc… thanks for changing my life. Thanks for being here on Earth at this time. Both of your caring commitment to humanity and to God shines through like I have never seen and I have met many committed, loving, conscious people. I have never encountered anything like Satvatove before. How powerful. Thank you.”

Kylie Devi
Foundational Seminar – Florida March 2011

ILLUSION

“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”

George Bernard Shaw

FROM ANITA

“Thank you and your staff members for leading us through this seminar very successfully. I felt really cared for and it was done professionally but it didn’t interfere with

the feeling that you are doing this seminar as a service to all of

us. In one degree I was conscious that I have problems in communication. I also could identify some of them but it was very difficult to get rid of them, or better said, impossible. Now I’ve got tools to do that and some I’ve learned to use them but I can see how many tools are still for me to learn and use. This seminar is the best start and foundation for future good communication and relationships even with God. Thank you”

Anita

FROM HUGO

“I experienced the empowering David Wolf at a T. Harv Eker seminar last year, and I’m a totally changed person as a result. I bought his book and my communications with family and friends has been transformed. I used to argue with my Mom about me wanting to become a successful entrepreneur, and she wanting me to get a job, and just get by. Whenever we spoke about the issue of money there were massive amounts of anger. Now I’ve used David’s techniques and I’ve punctured that bubble. We have a completely new relationship. Thank you so much; it’s been a true blessing……Today I realized how different my communication is from just a short while ago, how I feel people’s energies and emotions and understand them…I can’t believe there was a time when I did not use these skills…It feels so natural (three months later), like a part of me. I now realize that I have two choices; love or fear. I can mirror with love, or shield with fear…It’s amazing to realize that I’ve lived so much of my life in fear. Thank God for you and personal growth. You’ve changed my life!”

Hugo Ljung

ASSERTIVENESS TRAINING COACHING LETTER

Excerpt From A Coaching Letter – By David B. Wolf

“Assertive” doesn’t mean abrasive or offensive. It means you being connected with who you are and asserting that. Also it means detached. Assertiveness is not merely a skill; it’s intrinsic to a life of integrity. By not being assertive we are not fulfilling our destiny – expressing ourselves in a way that’s powerful, courageous, and considerate, empathic, honoring others, giving them safe space to respond to our communication. We express ourselves fully. Whatever the result, we are in our integrity, which in itself is success. We’ve expressed our truth without compromising, in a manner not meant

to harm or degrade others.

FROM BIMALA

“Thank you again for designing the Satvatove Advanced course. It really allowed me to get in touch with myself. Allowing me to communicate and understand others around me in a far deeper and richer way. I have already used some of the tools in my communication with my partner and understand where she is coming from and what she is saying.”

Bimala

FROM DATTA

“I realized that some people view me as not being fully present all the time, which is kind of true, but I didn’t know that I was revealing that to people. I also realized that I definitely have a long way to go to where I want to be, but I’m ready for the journey. I learned a lot

about communication and the things possible. I also realized that I have a good head on my shoulders and that I can go places with my life that I haven’t even imagined possible. A process on the second day of the seminar was awesome and I realized that I sometimes let other people lead me down the path I don’t want to go…”

Dattatreya Knighten
Foundational Seminar – October 2010, N Florida



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