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ABUNDANCE
Excerpt From Relationships That Work: The Power Of Conscious Living
- By David B. Wolf
An abundance mentality is a strategy for living. This frame of mind allows us to see possibilities in each situation. A scarcity mentality is the opposite of the paradigm of abundance. Approaching life from scarcity, we focus on difficulties in every opportunity, whereas a paradigm of abundance realizes opportunities in every difficulty. People coming from a place of abundance are storehouses of fresh ideas and exude a natural confidence.
The framework of the three modes of nature described in the first part of this book can assist us in understanding different relationships with abundance. In the mode of sattva, I assume that if I act in harmony with principles of integrity and my intrinsic propensities, I will experience abundance in my life. The abundance that I receive, I naturally handle with respect and responsibility, understanding that satisfaction is not obtained by increasingly acquiring material goods through unnecessary activity. In the rajas mode I would equate money with feeling powerful and happy—although such assumptions repeatedly lead to excessive anxiety, lack of fulfillment and diminished self-respect. The Bhagavad Gita describes a person in this mode as “constantly desiring to desire,”18 without reference to the satisfaction and peace that lie within. Influenced by tamas, I would maintain a careless, reckless attitude, using money in a neglectful and wasteful manner, perhaps for addictive and destructive purposes.
An abundance mindset genuinely celebrates the accomplishments, victories and qualities of others. Living from abundance, we realize that there is more than sufficient joy, recognition and resources for everyone. Our sense of self-value is not derived from comparison, but rather from a secure and intrinsic experience of our worth. In abundance, my success is not dependent on the failure of someone else.
A paradigm of abundance actualizes as a win-win approach to relationships. Win-win means I assume that the success of others enhances my success, and my wins contribute to the well-being of others. From a perspective of win-win, I am committed to victory for everyone. Consider the following example. A small company has one vehicle. One manager is responsible to ensure that a shipment is delivered across town by 10 a.m., while the other manager has three clients to visit by the same time. In win-win consciousness there is no conflict or tension between these people. Neither is thinking, “I need the vehicle this morning.” Rather, there is a cooperative attitude of, “How can we both fulfill our responsibilities?” Neither manager actually needs the vehicle. What both managers actually need is for the merchandise to be delivered, and for all three clients to be treated with integrity. With the managers brainstorming together for the maximum benefit of their joint venture, they will likely arrive at several innovative ideas that meet everyone’s needs.
A win-lose paradigm assumes that if someone else wins, then I lose; or that if I win, then someone else loses. With reference to the above scenario, a manager with win-lose assumptions might think, “The other manager has had use of the vehicle for the past three days. I need it this morning. If he doesn’t deliver his shipment on time, that’s too bad for him. It’s not my problem.” A lose-win model of interaction could sound like this: “Okay, you take the vehicle. I guess I’ll just give up on those accounts I was hoping for, like I usually do…” (Thinking, “I’ll be the loser again. I’m used to it.”) Lose-win—rooted in personal insecurity—conveys the message that while your voice and needs matter, mine do not. This attitude is often accompanied by concealed resentment and hostility.
Lose-lose takes things further, where I act to take both of us down, ensuring success for nobody. With this mentality, one manager may view the other as an enemy, and while conceding the vehicle for the morning, may make plans for sabotaging the efforts of the other manager. Other variations of these relationships to success and winning include play-not-to-lose, which is a survival strategy focused on not losing rather than actually living vitally and winning, and don’t-play, where my fear of failure prevents me from any chance at success or true fulfillment.
We can conceive of win-lose as a rajasic approach to relationship, whereas lose-lose or lose-win mentalities—which require even less commitment than win-lose—are primarily influenced by the mode of tamas. Win-win entails sattvic consciousness, where we stand for our convictions while honoring those of others. It requires deep commitment because it is founded on a determination that everyone will be satisfied. This requires dedication to high-level communication, where we take responsibility not just for what we say, but for how our communication is received and the effect it has. Win-win synthesizes principles of empathy, assertiveness and clear intention to create profoundly satisfying results both interpersonally and professionally.
True Power in Police Work: A Story of Transformation
by Jens Kirschner
From the Satvatove Archive:
In February 2006 I visited the Satvatove communication and transformation seminars. Till that time I considered myself as intelligent, self-confident, male and superior. I was able to express myself very well and convince others about my views. Discussions were battles for me that I wanted to win. Based on what I had heard about the Foundational Course, I did not consider it to be of great importance for me. I looked at the Advanced Course as a challenge.
In both courses I experienced completely new patterns and ways of dealing with myself and other people. Already in the Foundational Seminar I felt shaken, confused, weak and needy. Several times I wanted to run away as I was rediscovering my emotional personality. At the end of the Advanced Seminar I had decided to leave my job as a police officer, as my newly discovered “soft” side didn’t seem to fit that occupation anymore. However, at the start of the course we had agreed not to make major life decisions till at least two weeks after the end of the seminar, so I remained in my job.
After the courses I developed a new kind of self-confidence. I’ve reflected on myself and have learnt to accept other people with different opinions. I’ve learned to care about myself and in doing so I’ve also learned to show my environment that I care. I wouldn’t say my life is easier now. In some ways it has become more difficult since I’ve started to genuinely take responsibility for my life. But I have so much more energy available now and for the first time in my life I really feel alive.
My personal change has definitely affected my work as a police officer. Colleagues and citizens feel understood by me, valued and accepted. They have expressed how they have noticed and appreciate the shift in my character. I now feel much safer in my dealings as a policeman. Conflict situations are much less about me personally. In recent months, due to awareness of myself and attentiveness to be empathic in communication, I have encountered only one situation where a citizen resisted my actions in my law enforcement capacity.
In that special case I acted with fierce determination, while simultaneously considerate towards the offender. He was aggressive, and a threat to other young men present, as well as to myself and other police officers. To protect everyone involved I acted quickly and firmly. I did this with calm, with clear intention not to harm. I forced the offender to the ground, and the situation was efficiently resolved. Afterwards I helped the young man to his feet and with gentleness explained about further procedures. My colleagues were amazed that the encounter ended in an almost friendly mood between everyone. Instead of leaving police work, I am endeavoring to integrate my discovered qualities and personal communication strategies into this vocation, and the results have been deeply rewarding.
#1- Introduction
In this introductory video to the 7 principles for fulfilling relationships video series, you will be given the foundational understanding which the following video lessons in the series are built on.
From Kyle McNeil
“Satvatove was the best decision I’ve made in 2009 and it’s not my habit to make poor decisions. Since that weekend and because of what I learned about Kyle, I’m now closer with friends & I communicate in all aspects of my life (business, family, friends, dating) with much more assertiveness and understanding. Those closest to me have noticed a massive shift and growth. I’d say, if you need a change in life, Satvatove is the best place to start.”
Kyle McNeil
Satvatove, Foundational Course, March 2009,
Edmonton, AB, Canada
Foundational – May 18–20, 2012
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“This Satvatove seminar in Gainesville, Florida, just in my back yard, was better than any seminars I have taken in New York or LA. After taking it, I felt empowered, and did transform my relationships with my parents, my partner, and my colleagues at work. I am now able to create trust. I am now moving on with my life and I do not get caught up in the drama.”
- Helen Robert, Teacher
In this seminar you will experience an atmosphere of trust and security allowing you the space to explore meaningful issues. David and Marie’s unwavering empathy and compassionate, astute perceptions provide a safe, supportive environment for students to challenge themselves to create significant breakthroughs.
“The seminar is expertly organized without a dull moment. Dr. Wolf creates a safe environment in which I could explore my emotional needs and step out of a sometimes overly analytical approach to life. I am able to relate more meaningfully to loved ones, colleagues and acquaintances. Every attendee in my seminar was moved and awakened by this excellent experience.”
– Bob Cohen, Geologist
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Foundational, Gainesville – Oct 22-24, 2010
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October 22 – 24, 2010
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The Power Of Conscious Living
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Tuition: $ 950.00
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Foundational, Gainesville – Oct 21-23, 2011
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Learn communication and relationship principles and techniques that will last a lifetime and that will grow with you.
Walk away with skills and insights you can apply immediately in all your relationships- with your partner, children, colleagues and yourself.
What would it mean for you to substantially improve your relationships, with yourself and others?
Take advantage of the unique opportunity of the Satvatove Foundational Seminar! This is a 3-day adventure in daring communication and bold exploration to interior frontiers.
Here you will acquire a full relationship toolbox, including listening tools as a basis for modules including interpersonal skills, conflict resolution, teamwork, and assertiveness.
Through participatory activities you will examine underlying assumptions by which you live your life. This is a concentrated, powerful communication training, culminating in sharpened self-awareness and satisfying relationships.
Are you eager to experience life with increased fullness and inspiration?
“This Satvatove seminar in Gainesville, Florida, just in my back yard, was better than any seminars I have taken in New York or LA. After taking it, I felt empowered, and did transform my relationships with my parents, my partner, and my colleagues at work. I am now able to create trust. I am now moving on with my life and I do not get caught up in the drama.“
- Helen Robert, Teacher
In this seminar you will experience an atmosphere of trust and security allowing you the space to explore meaningful issues. David and Marie’s unwavering empathy and compassionate, astute perceptions provide a safe, supportive environment for students to challenge themselves to create significant breakthroughs.
“The seminar is expertly organized without a dull moment. Dr. Wolf creates a safe environment in which I could explore my emotional needs and step out of a sometimes overly analytical approach to life. I am able to relate more meaningfully to loved ones, colleagues and acquaintances. Every attendee in my seminar was moved and awakened by this excellent experience.”
– Bob Cohen, Geologist
How satisfied are you with your present life situation, and how willing are you to try something different?
To Read More Testimonials About The Foundational Course Click Here.
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Course Information
Date: October 21 – 23, 2011
Where: Alachua / Gainesville, Florida
Course hours: 9 am to 9:30 pm (ending time approximate)
1.5-hour lunch break each day
Tuition Fees: $950
Tuition includes: 32-hour seminar, 1-hour personal coaching interview, and course workbook.
Scholarships, Group and Early Registration Discounts and Payment plans are available.
Florida Special
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Bring A Friend Or Partner For Only $200
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Foundational – August 17-19, 2012
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Self–Empowerment Experience
August 17 – 19, 2012
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Focus On Your Personal Development,
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40% OFF FLORIDA SPECIAL
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“Potential means you ain’t done it yet. ”
Darrell Royal
What You Get:
Power: Become the leader of your own life. Create what you have always wanted.
Skills: Communication. Relationships. Conflict Resolution. Team-Building. Simple Tools for all Life Circumstances.
Transformation: Personal. Interpersonal. Spiritual. Activate Your Highest Potential.
Community: Intimacy. Trust. Cooperation. Assertiveness. Carry the Skills into Your Life With Ongoing Support. Create change that lasts!
What would it mean for you to substantially improve your relationships, with yourself and others?
Take advantage of the unique opportunity of the Satvatove Foundational Seminar! This is a 3-day adventure in daring communication and bold exploration to interior frontiers.
Are you eager to experience life with increased fullness and inspiration?
How satisfied are you with your present life situation, and how willing are you to try something different?
To Read More Testimonials About The Foundational Course Click Here.
Download Brochure.
Course Information
Date: August 17-19, 2012
Place: Alachua County, North Florida
Course hours: 9 am to 9:30 pm (ending time approximate)
1.5-hour meal break each day
Tuition: $950
Tuition includes: 32-hour seminar, 1-hour personal coaching interview, and course workbook.
Scholarships, Group Discounts and Payment plans are available.
40% OFF FLORIDA SPECIAL
BRING A FRIEND FOR ONLY $200
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100% SATISFACTION GUARANTEED!If you are not satisfied you can request in writing a refund of the tuition within 24 hours of the end of the seminar. |
“This Satvatove seminar in Gainesville, Florida, just in my back yard, was better than any seminars I have taken in New York or LA. After taking it, I felt empowered, and did transform my relationships with my parents, my partner, and my colleagues at work. I am now able to create trust. I am now moving on with my life and I do not get caught up in the drama.”
- Helen Robert, Teacher
In this seminar you will experience an atmosphere of trust and security allowing you the space to explore meaningful issues. David and Marie’s unwavering empathy and compassionate, astute perceptions provide a safe, supportive environment for students to challenge themselves to create significant breakthroughs.
“The seminar is expertly organized without a dull moment. Dr. Wolf creates a safe environment in which I could explore my emotional needs and step out of a sometimes overly analytical approach to life. I am able to relate more meaningfully to loved ones, colleagues and acquaintances. Every attendee in my seminar was moved and awakened by this excellent experience.”
– Bob Cohen, Geologist
For Further Information Contact:
Dharm Khalsa
- dharm.khalsa77@gmail.com / 352-222-6331
