Posts Tagged ‘authenticity’
EXPERIENCE, AWARENESS AND COMMUNICATION
Experience, Awareness and Communication form the elements of authenticity. Hear Dr. David Wolf describe the interaction of these elements, and learn how to apply them in your life, and recognize when they are present, or not, in yourself and others. In this edition of the Satvatove Radio Show, David and Marie coach and discuss with a caller from New Jersey (we don’t hold that against her) the time and place for empathy, feedback and immediacy, in the context of self-reflection in interpersonal relations.
SATVATOVE RADIO SHOW- August 24, 2011
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AUTHENTICITY
“The road to enlightenment is paved with authenticity, not imitation.”
Alan Cohen
THE HABIT OF AUTHENTICITY…
“The habit of authenticity makes us a distinction in the world, a human being willing to be uniquely ourselves. This isn’t about reactively differentiating ourselves, which is the flipside of following the crowd, but rather full and genuine expression of our spirit.”
David B. Wolf
AUTHENTICITY
“The habit of authenticity makes us a distinction in the world, a human being willing to be uniquely ourselves.”
David B. Wolf
FROM NAROTTAMA
“I was helped to recognise some of my patterns and given tools to identify others. The workshop allowed me to look within and really own my strengths and personal power. For that alone it was worth attending.
I also learned that I value deep and meaningful connections to people, and am able to reach out and connect with authenticity.”
Rising Up Early?
Excerpt From A Coaching Letter Written By David Wolf
My experience with myself and many others is that rising early is a fairly common challenge- a battle with the senses, the physical urge to want to sleep, that many, if not most, encounter. Just like the senses want to eat more than required, or watch mindless tv, or so many other things that, without conscious restraint, will distract us from meaningful life purpose. An analogy that comes to mind is that of the chariot. It is pulled by five horses, representing the five senses. The self is the passenger, the intelligence is the driver, and the reins are the mind. So, balance is the key. If we let the horses run wild, then obviously that will create a precarious situation, that might land us in a ditch, or off a cliff. Similarly, if we pull the reins too tight (analogously, exerting undue willpower to control the senses- maybe fasting too much, or sleep deprivation, or simply a lack of healthy recreation), then horses buck, and again we’re not controlling the chariot of the body with spiritual strength and intelligence. So, at each phase of life, with each of the senses, it’s an art and science to know how much rein to give.
I think it important here for you to have empathy and compassion for all parts of yourself, including the part that wants to sleep in, and the part that is frustrated, disappointed, that you’re wasting time in that way. I know that you know that if you had full, genuine, sincere clear intention to do so, you’d make those changes. I’m not saying that for you to be harsh with yourself, but rather for you to simply notice what you’re actually committed to, and what you’re not. With such awareness you get to consider what further changes you’re actually ready to put into effect. For whatever you’re not willing to do, you also get to look at how satisfied you are with that choice, and to what extent it may be driven by denial. Whatever denial may be there could very possibly be sapping energy, draining inspiration, with a practical result such as turning off the alarm in the morning for that extra half hour, or two hours, instead of being commitment-driven and tolerating the short-term pain of getting up, with the mid- and long-term benefit of a more productive day, maybe feeling better about yourself, etc. By examining whatever denial might be there, and what it’s made of, you come to a higher level of personal responsibility for your situation, including your motivation level.
#6 – Authenticity
BEING AUTHENTIC
Excerpt from a coaching letter written by Dr. David Wolf :
Client: Could you explain to me the distinction between being authentic and indulging in negative feelings?
David: “My understanding of the distinction between authenticity and indulgence in negative feelings is that authentic expression is life-enriching, energizing personal growth and upliftment of consciousness for ourselves and others. We may authentically experience and express emotions that may be painful and unpleasant, such as anger, pain, shame, hurt, and fear, in a way that elevates awareness and is genuinely healing, healthy and releasing. That’s different than indulgence in negative feelings, which I view as a grungy way to justify hanging onto toxic emotions such as resentment, depression, etc., perhaps under the guise of “expressing my feelings”. The consciousness behind authenticity is sincerely life-enhancing, whereas the consciousness behind indulgence in negativity is life draining. In both cases there may be expression of feelings, though the result is quite different. Authenticity is liberating, whereas negativity indulgence entangles us further in unhealthy and unproductive emotional patterns.”
