Posts Tagged ‘Commitment’
WHAT IS AN AGREEMENT?
Excerpt From A Coaching Letter Written By David B Wolf
“How do agreements come in to being? or what is an agreement?”
My understanding about this is that we each determine this for ourselves. Having said that, I also want to express that my understanding is that the principles that we present in the Satvatove seminars, regarding agreements, are valid regardless of time, circumstance and subjective definition. That is, for example, the principle is that when we keep our agreements we create in our lives trust, confidence, safety, warmth, gratitude, etc., and when we violate our agreements we create mistrust, hurt, decline in self-respect, confusion, etc. In defining what is or is not an agreement we want to be as honest as possible, not avoiding the truth of a broken commitment through some attempt at word play. For myself, I endeavor to be conscious about my language in this regard. For example, if I know that I don’t want to make a commitment, or for the other person to think that I’m giving my word, I’ll specifically use language such as “I may call you tomorrow…” or “I might be at the meeting…”, whereas if I want to create commitment with myself or others, then I endeavor for my language to reflect that, such as “I will call you on Thursday.” With ourselves, whatever stories we may tell ourselves, I believe that we know when we’ve made agreements with ourselves, and as you indicate in your letter, we feel the positive effects when we
fulfill them, and negative effects when we neglect to do so. . . .
With others it seems that it is important to clarify matters if we sense that there is some room for uncertainty with regards to whether it is perceived that we made an agreement. For example, if I say “I’ll try to be there tomorrow at noon…”, and I sense that the other person is responding in a way that he expects me to be there, then it may be helpful, to avoid misunderstanding, for me to clarify on the spot, that I may be there, and that I’m not committing to be there…
EXPECTATIONS
Excerpt From A Coaching Letter Written By David B Wolf
… To grow we want to challenge ourselves, to play a big game with our lives. This entails expecting a lot of ourselves. These expectations, transformed into practical and grounded commitments, drive us forward to satisfying accomplishments and internal development. I guess the downside of expectations is if we become emotionally attached to them. Emotional attachment to expectations can form a sort of self-imposed prison of disappointment, sadness, discouragement, etc. If we find that we don’t meet our expectations, that is an opportunity for a wonderful learning experience. There is a cycle- commit, act, learn. Whether we succeed to fulfill our expectations or not, we can definitely succeed in creating a valuable learning experience, if we approach life from a perspective of discovery and opportunity. Of course, such an approach is not meant to minimize the full intention we apply to our commitment to achieve and surpass expectations. So, this approach of learning from each experience is distinct from the stance of emotional attachment to expectations. If we are emotionally attached, then if we fall short we may descend into grungy states of guilt, inadequacy, etc., instead of positively and constructively learning from the situation…
COMMITMENT
“The moment one commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never have otherwise occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would come his way.”
William Hutchinson Murray
Satvatove Values, Principles and Codes
These values, principles, and codes set forth standards by which Satvatove coaches, coach trainees, staff, facilitator trainees and facilitators may be held accountable, by clients, students, colleagues, and any member of society.
Values- Service, Integrity, Excellence, Dignity and inherent worth of every person, Accountability, Commitment, Human relationships, Personal Growth, Spiritual essence of all living beings, Self-determination.
Satvatove coaches, coach trainees, staff, facilitator trainees and facilitators behave in a trustworthy manner. They conduct themselves in a manner consistent with Satvatove’s values.
Satvatove coaches, coach trainees, staff, facilitator trainees and facilitators continually develop and enhance their expertise. They strive to increase their knowledge and skills and to apply them in their service to others. Additionally, Satvatove coaches and facilitators endeavor to contribute to the knowledge-base of the Satvatove mission.
Satvatove coaches, coach trainees, staff, facilitator trainees and facilitators honor clients and seminar participants in their life and work. S/he believes that every client is creative, resourceful and whole. Coaches, coach trainees, staff, facilitator trainees and facilitators take responsibility to encourage client/student self-discovery, client/student-generated solutions and strategies, and client/student responsibility and accountability, Facilitators and coaches believe that the client or student has the capacity to handle his or her situation at a high level of effectiveness, and that a stance of personal responsibility is valuable to facilitate this. Coaches, coach trainees, staff, facilitator trainees and facilitators support and challenge clients and students to examine the possible limitations of their world view and self view, thereby enabling students and clients to grow and manifest their full potential.
Coaches, coach trainees, staff, facilitator trainees and facilitators represent themselves as qualified only within the framework of their education, training, certification or other relevant experience. Satvatove coaches, coach trainees, staff, facilitator trainees and facilitators should provide services and use techniques or approaches only after engaging in appropriate study, training and supervision.
Satvatove coaches, coach trainees, staff, facilitator trainees and facilitators should be aware of potential conflicts of interest that may interfere with the exercise of professional discretion and the delivery of quality services. Coaches, coach trainees, staff, facilitator trainees and facilitators should not take unfair advantage of any professional relationship to exploit others.
Satvatove staff, coaches, coach trainees, facilitator trainees and facilitators encourage persons involved with Satvatove Institute to continue their involvement with Satvatove programs, with due consideration of which programs will be beneficial for each person.
Satvatove staff, coaches, coach trainees, facilitator trainees, and facilitators do not use their connection with Satvatove Institute, whether it be in the capacity of course staff member, coach trainee, or any other capacity, to solicit persons involved with Satvatove Institute for personal services where the person proposing the relationship will receive reimbursement from the other party. This includes services such as personal coaching. This means, for example, that a staff member at a Satvatove seminar will not approach a seminar participant, or another staff member, to ask if s/he would like to be a coaching client of the staff member making the request.
Satvatove Institute representatives should not solicit private information from clients unless it is necessary to do so in order to perform their functions as coaches, coach trainees, staff, facilitator trainees or facilitators. Persons representing Satvatove should protect the confidentiality of information obtained in the course of coaching or conducting seminars. Confidentiality must be applied in the context of a commitment to prevent serious, foreseeable and imminent harm to a client, student, or other person. Satvatove representatives should use their discretion to balance these principles in practical application.
Representatives of Satvatove who engage in appropriate physical contact with clients or students are responsible for setting clear, appropriate and sensitive boundaries that govern such physical contact.
Satvatove coaches, coach trainees, staff, facilitator trainees and facilitators should treat colleagues with respect and should accurately represent the qualifications and views of colleagues.
Satvatove representatives should take reasonable steps to ensure that documentation of services is accurate and reflects in a balanced way the services provided. Satvatove coaches, coach trainees, staff, facilitator trainees and facilitators should ensure that their private conduct does not interfere with their ability to fulfill their professional responsibilities.
Those who represent Satvatove respect the creative and written work of others and they do not misrepresent such work as their own.
Certified Satvatove Coaches, Certified Satvatove Seminar Facilitators, coach-trainees, facilitator-trainees and seminar staff members acknowledge and understand their ethical responsibilities to clients, colleagues, and to the public-at-large. They understand that others expect them to comply with and model the values and principles described herein.
Persons who are dissatisfied with the conduct of a Satvatove representative may complete and submit to Satvatove a Conduct Review Request. This request will be handled by the Satvatove Conduct Review Process.
